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Individual Therapy
Telehealth sessions for adults located in Hawaiʻi — anxiety, stress, burnout, life transitions, and rebuilding self-worth.
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Telehealth Therapy · Licensed in Hawaiʻi
You'll be taken seriously here.
Telehealth therapy for adults across Hawaiʻi — with particular care for the experiences that usually get waved off.
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Telehealth for adults in Hawaiʻi. Start with a free 15-minute call — no paperwork, no obligation.
Write to me — no phone call needed- DMFT Doctor of Marriage & Family Therapy
- Original research Interviews with practitioners working with male survivors of intimate partner violence
- Modalities Systemic, relational & collaborative · Jungian · trauma-informed · attachment-based · EMDR trained
- Telehealth Across Hawaiʻi
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Continuing Education
Workshops for licensed clinicians on recognizing and responding to what standard training leaves out.
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Forgotten Fathers
Writing drawn from original doctoral research on men's experiences of harm inside relationships.
Read the seriesWhy this practice exists
Alexander Seto Therapy exists to strengthen families in Hawaiʻi — so that children grow up in homes that are stable, safe, and whole.
Too often, the people holding a family together are the ones no one thinks to ask about. This practice was built for the parents and partners who fall through that gap — to help them find steady ground, because a family that holds together is the foundation everything else is built on.
“Peacemaking through placemaking.”
How I got here
I grew up in a stable family. That's not something I take for granted — it's what convinced me a family holding together is worth serious work.
The rest I learned from clients. Early in my career I sat with fathers who had lost contact with their children — not because they were dangerous, but because they ran out of money before the process ran out of steps. What struck me most wasn't the outcome. It was how rarely anyone believed them along the way.
That's the reason I went back for a doctorate. My dissertation examined how mental health practitioners respond to men who've been harmed inside their relationships. What I found: clinicians want to help but were rarely trained to see it — and being believed by one person is often what makes everything after it possible. I named that research Forgotten Fathers, in honor of my clients.
What I'd want you to know: I care about truth. Not as an abstraction, but as a working principle — that what you tell me about your own life is the starting point, not a claim to be verified. If that sounds unremarkable, you may not have needed it yet. If it doesn't, you probably have.
Credentials & Memberships
- Doctor of Marriage and Family Therapy (DMFT), Chaminade University of Honolulu
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), State of Hawaiʻi — MFT-932
- American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy — Professional Member
- Hawaii Islands Association for Marriage and Family Therapy — Professional Member
- Hawaiʻi-Approved Marriage and Family Therapy Supervisor — HI-AMFT SD #005
- EMDR International Association — EMDR Trained
Ways of working
- Systemic and relational — looking at the patterns around you, not just inside you
- Collaborative — you are the authority on your own life; we build the direction together
- Jungian — working with the material underneath the presenting problem
- Trauma-informed
- Attachment-based
- EMDR trained
Areas of focus
- Men's overlooked experiences — harm inside a relationship, fatherhood under pressure, not being believed
- Anxiety, stress & burnout — the weight that builds when you're the one everyone relies on
- Depression & low mood — discovering hope and what to look forward to
- Life transitions — separation, career change, new fatherhood, the periods where the old footing stops working
- Self-worth — the slow work of rebuilding it
- Relationship strain — worked on individually
- Grief & loss — understanding why what was lost was important
Sessions are individual telehealth for adults located in Hawaiʻi. If what you're carrying isn't on this list, reach out anyway — the free consultation is exactly for figuring out fit.
How telehealth works
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A free 15-minute call
We talk through what's going on and whether we're a good fit. Reach out by form first — no cold phone call required.
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Secure video sessions
Meet from anywhere in Hawaiʻi over a private, HIPAA-compliant platform.
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A steady rhythm
Most people meet weekly or every other week. We adjust as things move.
Continuing Education
For clinicians.
Workshops built from original research on recognizing and responding to male clients who've been harmed by a partner — the gap most training programs never cover.
CE credit approval is in progress and no credit is offered or guaranteed yet; each workshop listing will state its exact credit status before registration opens.
Forgotten Fathers — the series
Featured writing
Being Believed Is the Intervention
Why the first response a man receives often determines everything after it.
“If I Ask for Help, They’ll Think I’m Weak — or Lying”
The fear that keeps men out, and where it comes from.
Finding Help as a Man in Hawaiʻi: What to Look For
What to ask, what to look for, and what to do when the first try goes badly.
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No more than once a month — often less. Only when a new piece is published.
Ready when you are.
Start with a free 15-minute consultation. Reach out by form — it's confidential, low-key, and there's no obligation to continue.
Prefer to talk? Call (808) 520-1802