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Individual Therapy
Telehealth sessions for adults located in Hawaiʻi. Anxiety, stress, burnout, life transitions, and the slow work of rebuilding a sense of self-worth.
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You'll be taken seriously here.
Telehealth therapy for adults across Hawaiʻi — with particular care for the experiences that usually get waved off.
- DMFT Doctor of Marriage & Family Therapy
- Original research Interviews with practitioners working with male survivors of intimate partner violence
- EMDR EMDR trained
- Telehealth Across Hawaiʻi
Why this practice exists
Alexander Seto Therapy exists to strengthen families in Hawaiʻi — so that children grow up in homes that are stable, safe, and whole.
Too often, the people holding a family together are the ones no one thinks to ask about. When a parent is struggling and can't find anyone who takes them seriously, the whole household carries it, and the children carry it longest.
This practice was built for the parents and partners who fall through that gap. The work is to help them find steady ground — because a family that holds together is the foundation everything else is built on.
“Peacemaking through placemaking.”
Three ways in
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Continuing Education
Workshops for licensed clinicians on recognizing and responding to what standard training leaves out.
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Forgotten Fathers
Writing drawn from original doctoral research on men's experiences of harm inside relationships.
Read the series
How I got here
I grew up in a stable family. That's not something I take for granted — it's the thing that convinced me a family holding together is worth serious work.
The rest I learned from clients. Early in my career I sat with fathers who had lost contact with their children. Not because they were dangerous, and not because a court had found them unfit, but because they ran out of money before the process ran out of steps. They had spent everything defending themselves, and when the money was gone, the fight was over. Some of them hadn't seen their kids in years.
What struck me wasn't just the outcome. It was how rarely anyone believed them along the way. They had been doubted so many times — by friends, by professionals, sometimes by therapists — that by the time they reached me, they weren't sure the truth even mattered.
That's a hard thing to watch, and it's the reason I went back for a doctorate. My dissertation examined how mental health practitioners understand and respond to men who've been harmed inside their relationships. What I found is that clinicians want to help but were rarely trained to see it — and that being believed by one person is often the thing that makes everything after it possible.
I named that research Forgotten Fathers. The name came from my clients.
What I'd want you to know: I care about truth. Not as an abstraction, but as a working principle — that what you tell me about your own life is the starting point, not a claim to be verified. If that sounds unremarkable, you may not have needed it yet. If it doesn't, you probably have.
Credentials & Memberships
- Doctor of Marriage and Family Therapy (DMFT), Chaminade University of Honolulu
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), State of Hawaiʻi — MFT-932
- American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy — Professional Member
- Hawaii Islands Association for Marriage and Family Therapy — Professional Member, HIAMFT Approved Supervisor
- EMDR International Association — EMDR Trained
Areas of focus
Anxiety, stress & burnout
The weight that builds when you're the one everyone relies on.
Life transitions
Separation, career change, fatherhood, and the periods where the old footing stops working.
Men's overlooked experiences
Relationship harm, fatherhood under pressure, and situations where you weren't believed — met without judgment or a script.
How telehealth works
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A free 15-minute call
We talk through what's going on and whether we're a good fit. No pressure, no paperwork yet.
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Secure video sessions
Meet from anywhere in Hawaiʻi over a private, HIPAA-compliant platform. No app to figure out.
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A steady rhythm
Most people meet weekly or every other week. We adjust as things move.
Continuing Education
For clinicians.
Most training programs never cover how to recognize a male client who's been harmed by a partner. Workshops are built from original research and designed for practitioners who want to close that gap.
Continuing education credit information provided at registration.
Forgotten Fathers — the series
Featured writing
Being Believed Is the Intervention
Why the first response a man receives often determines everything after it.
“If I Ask for Help, They’ll Think I’m Weak — or Lying”
The fear that keeps men out, and where it comes from.
Finding Help as a Man in Hawaiʻi: What to Look For
What to ask, what to look for, and what to do when the first try goes badly.
Ready when you are.
Start with a free 15-minute consultation. It's confidential, low-key, and there's no obligation to continue.
Or call (808) 520-1802